Half way point! Day Four!
We hope and pray that you and your spouse are finding new ways to reach deeper intimacy.
Marriage. It's a covenantal bond, created by God to bring a man and a woman together in holy intimacy. Since the Garden, marriage has been under attack. The evil one is clever, conniving, and unrelenting. In our readings today, we're going to look at something the Apostle Paul wrote about how we are to live as believers. We often read these verses in light of our individuality. That is, as a believer, Paul suggests that I live in this manner. But what if we were to look at these verses in the context of our marriage? How would we respond to his words as "one flesh"? Intimacy isn't always about being physical. Intimacy is a place where as husband and wife we can be completely honest and open about what's in our hearts and on our minds. As you read through Paul's words to the church, think about what it would take to be totally honest and open with your spouse with the struggles you face. What might change if you started praying for each others struggles? What would it look like to be living with the peace of Christ, ruling in your hearts?
Day Four's Scripture Readings
- Paul provides quite a challenge for the believer; "set our minds on things above, not on earthly things." He then lists all of the things that we are to "put to death." What would change in your marriage if you worked to eliminate these items from your relationship?
- As you go through Paul's list, what parts of the "earthly nature" do you struggle with the most? Be honest and share we each other where you struggle the most, then agree to pray for each other in these areas.
- In verses 18 and 19, we see two words that often cause many of us to take a step back; SUBMIT and LOVE. Read through verse 12 to 17. Considering what Paul writes in these verses, is it possible that when we live in such a manner, a wife may submit to her husband as to the Lord, and a husband love his wife? Why? How?
A Prayer for Both of You
Heavenly Father, You have rescued us, raised us up with Christ, help us to set our heart on things that are above, where Christ is seated. Give us a passion to chase after You, our minds set on You and not here on Earth. Through Christ, help us to be freed from the temptations of our earthly nature and to walk in your ways. Help us to live as Your chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothed in Your love and grace. And allow that love and grace to be the love and grace that we show to each other as we learn how to live in loving submission before. In Jesus name we pray, Amen.
Remember, you can add to this prayer time by praying for the needs and asks
that you have for your relationship and family.
Now Go and Be Together
Being completely open and honest with our spouse is a powerful way to live. Without secrets, we live free; free to love and be loved. In some ways, it's like living in grace. When we know God's gift of grace, we find ourselves not condemned, but redeemed. Instead of God's wrath, we experience God's love. You see, when we know we are loved, we want to come to God for His forgiveness, because He promises to forgive us. It makes His grace endless. This can also be said of our marriages. When we live in grace with our spouses, it draws us together and makes us stronger. What does that look like? Well, it comes in knowing that when we make a mistake or offend our spouse, there's grace and forgiveness at the end of our apologies. That makes it easier to bring what we've kept in the dark into the light. When everything is in the light, there's nothing to hide. And when there's nothing to hide, freedom is found. And where we find freedom, well, intimacy is deeper and richer! Embrace the light. And enjoy the freedoms that come with your love for each other!
Hi we're Jay & Amy, and we've been married for 19 years and are super blessed to be busy raising our 5 kids; 4 boys and 1 girl! We juggle the adventures of life and ministry and share what we are learning as it relates to marriage, family, raising kids, serving in the church, and chasing after Jesus. Raising a family is hard work, especially in today's culture. But our hope is to encourage you and your family, as we live for the glory of God.
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